A Step-By-Step Guide to Changing Your Life.

As a single-mom of two beautiful children, age 13 and an almost 6 month old, I find myself asking what it is that I want for them. What do I want to instill in them? What do I want them to think of me when I am gone? What kind of memories do I want them to have of me when I am old and end up with some terminal disease? (I can say this wholeheartedly knowing that Parkinson's runs in my family and Alzheimers and Dementia have overtaken several of my family members minds as they have aged. I am not afraid of my future because I know what is a huge possibility for me.)

With these things in mind, what do I do with the time I have been blessed with on this earth?

For so long, I adhered to the ideology that I needed to state my independence in the form of not relying on other people. I also adhered to the ideology that I needed to go to college, get married, have children, and also have a career that provided for myself and my children. This meant, that I was working the 9-5 job, coming home, doing the homework with my eldest child, and attempting to have a "normal" life.

After many years of adhering to a "normal" life, I finally realized I was not in-tune or living my true calling. I was only tapping into the 1% of my talents. My talents are things about myself that when I used them, ACTUALLY made me happy. I had to think about what I was doing with them. What did I realize?

I played music for a time...I was happy to be able to inspire people.

I started hiking...I realized I was at my core when I was surrounded by nature.

I spent quality time with my son..this helped us grow a very close bond.

But what of these other talents/loves, that I have yet to go into, was I actually utilizing or tapping into?

I LOVED to write when I was 12. I would write short stories and poems.

I loved to travel. I had lived in Italy from the age of 11-13. This was the most fascinating places I had been to. The people were amazing.

I loved inspiring people by doing the things that most people were afraid to do.

CLIFF diving at a young age, in Sicily, is one of my favorite things to share with people because it was such a glorious feeling of free-falling into open water. (Don't get me wrong, climbing up those rocks to get back to the top left tiny paper cuts all over my hands, knees, and feet..THAT SUCKED).

The experience made it all worth it.

So where does that leave my life now? A grown woman with two children who is to be divorced soon for a second time? Yes, that is embarrassing to say..but it is the truth none the less..

I married young and said I wouldn't do it again unless it was right.

Apparently, as much as I wanted it to be right...

It was not.

But it did leave me with some very special realizations about myself.

1.) LIVE YOUR PASSIONS

-I am now writing a book on Wattpad. I'm ecstatic that people are liking it.

I've left the link below, in the event that you want something fantastical to read.

https://www.wattpad.com/story/226241123-ambience-shadows-light

-I am working on my first narrating gig for audiobooks.

* I can't wait to share with you all the sample.

Keep your eyes peeled for this as the book is really good read.

2.) DO THINGS YOU LOVE

-I am traveling to California in July for two reasons.

*Spending quality time with family members.

*Soul searching.

-I am traveling to Norway after the Corona leaves for four reasons.

*Spending quality time with a very near-and-dear to my heart friend.

*Increasing my cultural awareness

*Re-centering myself

*Soul Searching

3.) CHALLENGE YOUR BOUNDARIES

-Challenging yourself to do things you would not normally do will change who you are as a person and the quality of your life. It will not only do this, but it will make you realize your capabilities. In addition to helping you realize your capabilities, it will instill a confidence in yourself like you never knew before.

The world is against you.

YOU ARE YOUR ONLY ADVOCATE.

YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR SHIP.

YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE.

YOU MUST PUT FORTH THE EFFORT TO CHANGE YOUR WORLD.

YOU MUST REMOVE THE NEGATIVE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE IN ORDER FOR SPACE TO BE AVAILABLE FOR THE UNIVERSE TO PUT GOOD THINGS IN IT'S PLACE.

YOU CAN BE THE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU NEED.

YOU CAN BE HAPPY.

YOU CAN BE FULFILLED.

IF ONLY YOU WILL TRY TO BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD.

I want my children to know that I was adventurous, loving, kind, and gentile. I want them to know that they can do anything that they set their minds to. I want to set the example for them that they must work hard for the things they want BECAUSE there are NO HANDOUTS in this life. 

IF YOU WANT SOMETHING BAD ENOUGH, YOU MUST EARN IT.

YOU MUST WORK FOR IT.

YOU MUST GO OUT THERE AND GET IT!

Here endeth my thoughts for the day.

Cheers,

Alison

If you would like to help me reach the goal of traveling to Norway after COVID-19 leaves, I am taking donations at:

GOFUNDME: https://gf.me/u/x8nnwp

Venmo: @Alison_Veitch

Paypal email: aeveitch@gmail.com